How To Protect Our Children?

I often say to my friend, it is indeed a challenge to raise children… As a parent, we feel accountable. It is our duty to make sure that they turn out into good, successful, healthy, and happy people. We make sure we fill their needs intellectually, emotionally, physically, psychologically. God gave them to us and it is our responsibility to love and let them be the best persons they can be.

I have a son and he is turning 7 years old this year. They say that the first seven years of the child’s life is very crucial or important. This may define the persons they will likely be later on. So we try to instill the values that we can and focus on their needs. This is one of the reasons why I stopped working when my son was 2 1/2 years old. Thank God, my husband and I have the option that I stay home to take care of our children during the first few years of their life. I try to instill love of books, love of reading in my children. I love borrowing a lot of interesting books for them. This makes them see reading as something fun. My husband and I try to expose them as well to different activities just to find out their interests and talents. Andrei went to classes like Martial arts, and now he is playing golf every weekend. This school year we sent him to catechism class in church too. We need to build up the spiritual side as well.   We make sure that they see the value of learning. I closely monitor his performance in school. Everyday, we have time to read and do school homework together. As parents, we are not perfect. I get tired too and it challenges my patience.  But we still do our best to give the children what they deserve. All the love, care, and attention.

I am writing this because I realized that no matter how we protect our children, when they go out of the house, they go to school, you can not shield them at all from negative things. Out there, there can be bad influence or people who can hurt them. I understand that it is the real world, and eventually they have to deal with it. But as a mom, I want to make sure that when they face the real world, they will be equipped and their values are strong.

During the start of first grade, my son would often complain about a classmate who never stopped teasing him. The boy would say bad stuff to him or call him bad names. I would often advise my son to ignore the boy or report to the teacher if he is really hurt and offended. My son seems fine. Then these past few weeks, he would tell me things about school and that boy again would do or say something not nice to him. As a mother, it is our natural reaction, it is our instinct to be protective of our children. I felt I have had enough and I am a concerned parent. I am curious. I just want to find out what is going on. It happened that the boy’s mother is an acquaintance/a friend (not that close). I was thinking, I know his mom, so I tried to send a message to the boy’s mother about what has been going on with our sons. I was very careful with my words. I believe my approach was constructive. Well, it did not turn out well. She sounded pissed off and trying to tell me that we should not take kids fight seriously. She was over reacting. So I tried to apologize if I offended her so many times and even tried to call her. But some people are so narrow minded. I understand that she is being protective of her child as well. But I am sure there are things she does not know about her son. Her son told Andrei (my son) not to report to me of what’s happening to them in school. And just earlier, I was so alarmed. This is the reason why I wrote about this. My six year old was joking around. He went to my back and innocently joke about putting the thing in the butt! He was like singing about it. I asked him where did he learn it? He was so clueless why I was very upset. He said he learned it from the same boy. The boy would joke to him about it. I got so worried, so furious. I protect my child from any negative thing and I realize I can not do that out of home! We spent time talking about manners, respect, being good, choosing good friends, picking up only good things, I am really so alarmed. And I do not feel sorry anymore having opened it to my friend. I am aware that she has been having problems with her son. But I do not want my son to be involved with her son.

Now I am thinking of home schooling. I can see the advantages for the children, especially during the first few years of life at least. By the time they go to high school, I believe their values will already  be strong/established.

Oh my goodness. Good luck to us parents. May God’s help be with us as we do our mission to take care of our children!

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Beauty From Above

I dream to travel the world. I am amazed by different cultures, different places, and how people can be different from each other. When I was younger, geography and history were my least favorites. They bored me a little. But now that I have come of age, I definitely appreciate maps, countries, travel, and culture. As of now, I neither have the time nor the means to see the world. So what I do is watch travel shows, refer to books or the website to see different places. I enjoy the shows House Hunters International, Vikings, The Tudors, anything that shows history, geography, culture.

To Travel is really awesome. If you have the time and money, it is such an experience to actually  be in different places, enjoying beautiful landscapes, exploring local food, feeling the place’s breeze, hearing fascinating languages being spoken, walking on the street pavements, and having your photograph with a beautiful scenery in the background. For now, I am happy and contented to travel the world using my sense of sight and my wild imagination! This is seeing life’s beauty up close.

Another perspective that truly astonish me is not just to witness the beauty of life in front of me. I often wonder how it also feels like to appreciate the beauty from above. I am very afraid of heights. For sure, I will never fly up in space or be an astronaut even in my imagination. This is the reason why I follow NASA’s official instagram account. I enjoy their photos of earth, outer space, Universe, and all those celestial objects. They let me have an experience of seeing the beauty of life from above. It is astounding to see wonders and beauty in space. It can be scary too because of the other unknown things out there. I will not be talking about force, gravity, or energy. I know little of these things. But in general, it is just so amazing. There are so many things we do not know yet. As human beings we strive and keep on learning, knowing, and discovering.

I believe the astronomers and astronauts are blessed to have a first hand knowledge and experience of knowing/seeing the beauty of/from space. I often wonder how this experience has changed their views or if it has affected them at all?  So as I was engaging in a conversation in Instagram, I came across an amateur astronaut. I seized the opportunity to ask my inquiries (I will update this article as soon as I get his response). I am excited to know his point of view. He said, “as an amateur astronomer, and one who works with both amateur and professional astronomers for the most part they share a humble understanding of their place in the Universe and are aghast and excited to know what’s out there.”

Down here, from this perspective, everything seems so big. Problems are big. Our country is big. It is a big wide world! But when I just imagine, from up there, we are tiny specs of dust. Being alive is truly amazing. Being here on earth for just a few years is an incredible gift. Compared to billions of years or light years in space. With this in mind, fighting/ war does not make sense.  No sense hurting people in any way. There is no sense to be unhappy. We are all brothers and sisters, we are all human beings. Whether we come from different places, we live differently, we look different, we are all the same. I hope I am making sense. Or am I just too drunk from awe?

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What the US Has Taught Me

I was born and raised in Cavite (a province 30 minutes to 1 hour from Manila – depends on the flow of traffic). Our father was a lawyer and he worked in a prestigious government office. We had a decent life. My brother, sister and I went to “exclusive” schools when we were in high school and went to reputable Universities. When we moved to our father’s house, I remember growing up with people who helped us around the house. Someone was helping in preparing food,  washing our dishes, doing the laundry, ironing the clothes, folding the clothes,  and putting them in our dresser/cabinets. Someone was sweeping the floor, mopping it, and waxing it. There was even a time when I remember we had a good driver who helped us go places.In the Philippines it seems usual to have helpers at least when you belong in the middle class. Even if we had the help, my father and mother did not forget to teach us how to be responsible. We tried to help in our own little ways.

When I moved here in the US, it was quite an adjustment. Here, we have to do things on our own. There was no help. I learned so many things. After I got married, I learned how to cook (my hubby would always say my cooking is perfect!), do the laundry (& folding), iron clothes, sweep or vacuum & mop floors, clean the bathrooms, do the groceries, drive the kids to school and to their activities. Clearly, I became domesticated and independent. Whenever I would go visit my family in the Philippines, I know I have changed. It feels a little weird to be helped with things I normally do everyday. I feel so capable and I am happy with what I have become. Of course there are a lot of things moving here in the US has taught me. There are a lot of things we learn in life as we come of age. We actually never stop learning as long as we live!

Have a wonderful day everyone!

Write Down Your Thoughts to Become More Mindful and Consciously Aware

This was an article by Simon Moesgaard-Kjeldsen. I personally like this because it describes how I use writing in my life. I mentioned to him since I was a teenager, I noticed I was dependent on writing down everything: things to do, things to buy, and writing about my experiences. After two decades, I still do the same. If I don’t write them, I forget things or I feel so lost. It keeps me on track. Writing really helps a lot. I am just not sure if it works for everyone.

Write Down Your Thoughts to Become More Mindful and Consciously Aware.

Many people think that if they were only in some other place, or had some other job, they would be happy. Well, that is doubtful. So get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don’t put off being happy until some future date.

Exactly!

Don Charisma


«Many people think that if they were only in some other place, or had some other job, they would be happy. Well, that is doubtful. So get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don’t put off being happy until some future date.»

— Dale Carnegie


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A Better Day

Today is exactly a year since I was emotionally liberated. So I lit up a candle in our little altar to give thanks. It was a beginning of a new day, a new hope, a new life, and a time for healing. I know I am almost there. I can feel it in my mind, my heart, and my soul.  Forgiving myself and the person who might have caused me trouble. It is not easy to forget but it is possible to forgive… in time. So never shut the door. Keep believing in the good. You have to help yourself. Train your mind. Pray to God. There is always time for everything. Just hang in there. “Let the storm rage on” (line from the Song, Frozen). Then you will wake up to a better day.

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I completely agree!

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