For the people who have known me all my life, they can attest that I am a girl who want to please everyone. I want to keep everyone happy, and I never like arguments or being in any fight. But as you grow older into this world, you will realize that it is impossible to make everybody happy. You are exposed to different challenging situations and people who can hurt you. I have realized that it is hard to keep peace in our lives and in the whole world. People have different personalities, different beliefs, opinions, different perspectives. We can not see eye to eye all the time. This is a reality. We can only maintain balance or peace if we meet half way, if we talk or communicate. I hate to say it but what adds to the burden is some people never know how to listen. They are very quick to judge without seeing things objectively. As I quote, “In a society where people often judge before offering compassion, how does a scarred cover find the will to contain a positive book?” (Tiny Buddha by Lori Deschene) Yes it is very true, very easy to make judgments of other people right away. Easier than hearing them out first, listening to both side of the stories, and be objective. With this kind of response, how can there be peace?
The bible says “Jesus faced a mob that was eager to execute a woman caught in adultery. He put a stop to it with a simple challenge: Anyone who has no sin in their life should step forward and throw the first stone”. (John 8:7)That sentence is often cited as a reminder to avoid judging others when there are faults in your own life that need to be addressed.
Please stop believing that you are better than other people and that God is more pleased with you. We have our own stories to tell and you do not have the authority to judge a person. We are living our own lives which you know nothing about. Stop gossiping about other people and talking behind their backs. You have sinned too. Once in your life you also have stopped talking to a family member or a friend. You also get into a fight or disagreement with others or may have spoken of bad things about them too!
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:1-5)