How will you know if your child is gay?
I have nothing against being gay. I have gay friends, gay cousins, and they are wonderful, smart, lovable persons. I am not even sure why I am thinking about this. I am involved in my children’s lives so sometimes, I can not see objectively. You know I love them more than my life. Sometimes love can make you not see. I am actually starting to think that this post is silly. Why am I thinking about it anyway?
Well, yesterday, I was sewing some holes in my kids’ pajamas. My son, who was doing his homework suddenly got excited at the sight of the threads of different colors. He is usually very lively and energetic that it drains my own energy. I kept telling him to get back to his homework. He said he likes to make shirts. It raised my eyebrow. He did not really left me alone. He was talking and moving a lot (as usual) and I kept pushing him to finish his school work.
So the night came and I told his Dad about it. My husband and I were joking to each other about this matter. We are teasing each other about the possibility. I have always tried to determine what is going on. But am not sure. I have never been sure.
This is the part where I got a little troubled. I asked him with a blank face. “Okay, what will you choose for instance if I buy you something… Robots/Transformer or Sewing kit?” He blankly said, “Sewing kit. I will make shirts (mind you, he said shirts not dresses OK?… Shirts). It really cracked me up. I covered myself with a pillow and I was laughing so hard that I cried. Laughing and at the same time worried. My husband, who is the perfect father, was just smiling. He has always said, let our child be. Wherever he is happy. My husband is truly amazing. He is very supportive! As for me, I guess I am the tougher one. I want to teach my child how to be tough. I know it is bad sometimes, I play with him and I pretend to box him (just like Manny Pacquiao). My husband is totally not bothered unlike me. Do not get me wrong. I know that whatever he turns out to be, I will still love him more than my life, with all my heart, as I said. I am just not expecting it. It is true that sometimes, expectations are not good. It can disappoint you if things do not turn out the way you want to. My son is the only boy in both sides of the family. He has three girl cousins on my side and two girl cousins on his dad’s side. (I am talking about our siblings’ children). And my Dad was a former NBI officer (counterpart of FBI here in the US), very macho, manly, with guns and all. And my son is the sweetest, most lovable boy I have known. I do not have a conclusion yet. But now he is turning seven, I guess I will slowly find out. Wish me luck!!!! He is my own flesh and blood. And I will surely wish him all the best, all the success and all the happiness and love in the world. Part of me still wants something else but I should have an open mind!
Have a beautiful week guys!