Day By Day

Day by day, words are helping me understand myself better because there is reflection. There is introspection. You dig into the thoughts and feelings.
Having participated in blog awards, I remember coming across the question (not the exact words but something like this), “What is your motto in life or What is the greatest lesson guiding you.” I would usually answer “Everything happens for a reason.” Sometimes I would post the Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” These are really my favorites.
Suddenly, a memory came up to me just today. I guess this is how the brain works. Sometimes it is trying to find something, an answer to a question. You will just wake up one day with a thought or an idea in your head. I swear I have already forgotten this a long time. I believe almost two decades ago, I was so much into this book. I realized that I have held on to its lessons from that time up to present. This morning I hurried and looked this book up in the library. I can not wait to read it again, looking forward to new experiences, new lessons.
Everything happens for a reason and the Serenity Prayer are side by side with this:
“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.”
― Richard BachThe Bridge Across Forever: A True Love Story
So let go of the past. Do not get stuck in yesterday. Just remember the good ones. Never be haunted by pain. Do not over think the future. Stop worrying about tomorrow. Just be the best that you can be today. Focus and live in the moment. Day by day.

The Family Tree Project

The big portrait on the wall fascinated me. Although I was too young to understand, I was aware that it was a huge tree with branches. I remember there were so many names written on the branches.

When I was little, we used to come to my grandfather’s house. He was the fourth of the five brothers (for which my direct grandfather was the eldest).  When you enter their property, one would always notice a family tree painted on the walls.  I just recall how he gave importance on family ties. He used to host  family reunions in his place. It was a big gathering where a mass was being held for the family, and celebration come after (food & entertainment). I remembered that my siblings and I used to play a lot with our cousins. When grandfather died, I do not remember having reunions at all.

When I came of age, I find myself drawn to family ties. I see the value and significance of blood relations. I believe I was in high school when I started becoming interested in my family tree. I even documented it, wrote about it in my journal. I interviewed a great grandfather and asked all the names I needed to know to build the family tree. I know I have to find that journal that contains information about my ancestors. It was kept back home in the Philippines (it was one of the many). I hope they were not destroyed by the typhoon. I know I have too many other important things I need  to do in my life. Building a family tree is definitely not a necessity or maybe a waste of my time. But I think documenting and sharing it is what my heart wants. For the ones who are to be born yet. My son is naturally interested in it. He asks a lot of questions about family members. He seems to be more like me. I told him it will be my project and I will share it with him.

It maybe good to look where we came from, to acknowledge the past, the family, our roots. To make that spirit alive, spirit of being a family. Pray for healing and pray for hope. We are but many branches coming from the same trunk, originating from the same root. In a global perspective, we are all interconnected, intertwined.

It will be nice if we all continue to value our origins, our families. Like now, I try to reach out for my other cousins, nieces, nephews (the new generation). But it seems different. We are connected through social networking sites only and I see no effort from the younger ones to get to know their families. Don’t you think it would be nice to be connected not  just by social media like Facebook or Instagram? We aim for a connection that has depth, sincerity, and meaningful. Maybe it will be one of my goals for my own branches. I will make sure my branches will forever be united in love and in the spirit of being one. I better start building my family tree project!